last august our daughter left for australia…for nine months. we had never been apart for more than six weeks, so obviously it was hard and tears were shed, but this was something she wanted to do so we supported her with everything we had. surprisingly, those nine months flew by for all of us and when she returned with her newfound beautiful wings, we smiled. what a gift she had just given herself.
then, october showed up and so did retirement. after years of moving with a corporate ladder always in front of him to climb, my husband was done. finished. and this is where, to the surprise of many, there's a big smile on my face. "is he driving you crazy yet since he's home all the time" is what was always asked when we mentioned his retirement. we laughed about it and yet had to wonder…what? is retirement supposed to be hard? on me? on him? well if it is, it's been maybe the easiest hardest thing we've ever done.
in march we sold our house and in may we moved to a fabulous rental apartment in a tiny town forty five minutes away. we've moved before. a lot. but no matter how you move, where you move or when you move, A MOVE IS A MOVE.
then in june, we started building. every waking moment we have, has somehow been focused on or associated with everything new house related. it's exciting and frustrating and overwhelming all rolled into one big "carpet-drywall-tile-hardwoods-plumbing fixtures-door hardware-paintcolor-counter tops-cabinet-lighting" fur ball. the kind of fur ball that even the cat who hacked it up walks away while signaling, "there's nothing to see here folks…just keep on walking."
if you're still reading this, you've already figured out what comes next. yep, another move. ahhhhhnoooooother move. move number sixteen. in twenty nine years.
the experts say that a move, retirement, a death, building a house, a divorce, a new baby, a child leaving, issues with in-laws, etc. are some of the biggest stressors anyone can go through. i wonder what they say when you have five of those stressors happen to you in one year?